Quick Sweep: Organizational tips for streamlining home life
“…by small and simple things are great things brought to pass…”
I. Why?
Peace, calm. Order allows us to focus on what really matters in life. Keeping things neat is NOT about impressing people; it’s about creating an environment so that the Spirit can touch you and your family and so your home can be a respite and haven from the chaos of the world. It’s about creating a feeling, a sanctuary and safe haven, a laboratory for life. And it’s not just about things, this includes activities/commitments and brain clutter. We may have immaculate houses but be hoarders when it comes to our time/scheduling. Too many crowded days with no where to put our feet up! It doesn’t have to be and shouldn’t be immaculate. That’s not realistic. It feels too intense/uptight. Should feel “homey” and this happens when there’s order and cleanliness and flow. Same with our days.
Preface—Mothers Who Know (from a talk by Julie B. Beck)
“Mothers who know create a climate for spiritual and temporal growth in their homes. Another word for nurturing is homemaking. Homemaking includes cooking, washing clothes and dishes, and keeping an orderly home. Home is where women have the most power and influence. Working beside children in homemaking tasks creates opportunities to teach and model qualities children should emulate. Nurturing mothers are knowledgeable, but all the education women attain will avail them nothing if they do not have the skill to make a home that creates a climate for spiritual growth. Growth happens best in a “house of order,” and women should pattern their homes after the Lord’s house. Nurturing requires organization, patience, love, and work. Helping growth occur through nurturing is truly a powerful and influential role bestowed on women.
These wise mothers who know are selective about their own activities and involvement to conserve their limited strength in order to maximize their influence where it matters most. Mothers who know do less. They permit less of what will not bear good fruit eternally. They allow less media in their homes, less distraction, less activity that draws their children away from their home. Mothers who know are willing to live on less and consume less of the world’s goods in order to spend more time with their children—more time eating together, more time working together, more time reading together, more time talking, laughing, singing, and exemplifying. These mothers choose carefully and do not try to choose it all. Their goal is to prepare future fathers and mothers who will be builders of the Lord’s kingdom That is influence; that is power.” (Julie B. Beck)
So as women and mothers, we are the ones to create a climate for learning and growth. We have limited time, space, energy, and resources. Our job is to prioritize our stuff, our time, and our activities so we have time to spend on the things that are most important.
II. Declutter—#1 problem is too much stuff!
A. Question everything! Do I need/want/use it? One in, one out. More you have, more to take care of, sort, dust, move, deal with. Get down to basics: what is a reasonable amount of clothing for each person, for instance. Can I borrow it? Is the space it takes up worth it? Anything from a camper to an apple peeler/corer. Are gadgets worth the shelf/pantry space? Disclaimer: if you have oodles of storage space and are a sentimental type, by all means keep your stuff. Just organize it, containerize it. But question your motives—are you avoiding dealing with it or have you decided it’s for keeps? Work with a non-sentimental friend who is good at tossing. Use a method to determine (if you are indecisive, convinced otherwise): turn hangers around, store out of sight for a year, whatever. Test it. Get in the habit of not even bringing home things you will have to deal with ie plastic bags, junk toys, trash from the cars, dirt, programs. Cancel subscriptions to unnecessary magazines. Get off mailing lists. You can always subscribe in the future. Stop trying to make things “work” (decorations, clothes, activities). Better to have a few quality pieces than lots of items you only kind of like.
Activities: Really think about it before you “bring it home.” Just because sign-ups come home doesn’t mean you have to fill them out. Think what you would do with that free time as a family. Or how it would impact your family if you say yes. Or no. Just because you’ve had an item or activity for years doesn’t mean it needs to stay. It’s personal, just be mindful and don’t be afraid to re-evaluate.
B. Always have a donation box or black bag. Put anything in question in it. You can always fish it out later if you get desperate for its company. Someone out there will love it—be generous while it’s still in style and in good shape. Don’t look through the donation bag as you are giving it away. Even if it was a gift!!!
Activities: Sometimes it’s time to just get rid of them. Just putting them out of sight temporarily is enough to let you think clearly and see what life feels like without it/them. One in, one out rule.
C. Clear a space. Just relish the clean, clutter-free look. As you consider replacing each item, truly think of its function/purpose. Do you have there out of habit, you love it, it’s useful? Put everything you can away, even the useful stuff (ie toaster, mixer). Less visual clutter=less head clutter. Same with decorations. Take everything down/out. Start over. Mix up pieces from different parts of the house. Put centerpiece on table so it looks nice, deters clutter.
Activities: You might want to clear your whole calendar of as many extra-curriculars as you can for just one season. Slowly add back the things you love. Just use the time and space to collect your thoughts. Just as we need space around our mixer and toaster on the counter to help things feel less cluttered, clear space around your commitments. Have older siblings teach youngers if you can’t fit everyone in. Take turns at lessons. Just because there’s a place for the juicer on the counter doesn’t mean you have to put it there. Or even bring it home. Get used to open space/time. Also leave space around activities: don’t try to cram in zoo, Chuck E. Cheese, and pool in one day; choose one and leave some down-time around it.
D. Containerize. Everything that is small can go in something big. Think baskets, cosmetic trays, check boxes, office supply trays, silverware trays, old Tupperware without lids, Dollar store plastic trays, magazine racks, old ladders (for folded blankets/fabric). Get in the habit of repurposing used containers; get creative before you toss. Make decorative pieces play double duty (ie baskets by toilet for tp, old crates for books). Lotions, potions, hair ribbons, loose hot chocolate/oatmeal/seasoning mix packets. Sturdy containers are preferable to a bag of chocolate chips or cereal or crackers. Look for nooks and crannies under sinks, drawers, linen closets. Make a lunch “drawer” in the fridge with lunch meat, baggies of grapes or veggies, condiments for sandwiches. Make one for the pantry too (pudding cups, fruit leather). Keep a snack section of the pantry/fridge in portion sizes you’re ok with. Ask for someone with a fresh set of eyes to help you see the possibilities. You can keep the same amount of stuff, but in a container it feels more orderly. The more uniform the containers are, the more orderly everything looks. Containers everywhere: purses, bags, vehicles.
E. Logically keep items where they are most used/where it makes sense. Every item has a home that makes sense that family members can all find. Designate an office area somewhere in or near the kitchen if you don’t have a home office. Make it easy for kids to be self-sufficient: plastic dishes, snacks on their level, toys with a definite home, clothes they can reach, coat racks that are easy to use, car and house keys on a peg board, tools in designated drawers garage. Teach them to solve problems and take care of their own needs. Put your purse in the same spot all the time. Put your keys in the same pocket of your purse all the time, etc.
III. Maintain
A. Lay the foundation: Exercise, read your scriptures, pray, get dressed, whatever you need. Center yourself. Help family members develop these habits:
bedrooms: beds made, clothes away
bathrooms: counters cleared, towels hung, clothes away
kitchen: counters cleared, dishes at least in sink if not in dishwasher; wipe table, start dinner?
up/down: keep containers at top and bottom of stairs for items to go up or down, one for each person?
B. Keep it picked up—throughout the day into evening
car: Take in everything that doesn’t belong in a vehicle, keep trash container (Kleenex box, hanging bag, tiny trash can) in each vehicle, keep shop vac handy and do often (have person who drives that vehicle be responsible for it each weekend). Keep a stash of supplies handy in a crate or under the seat in a container with a lid or in the trunk: water, change of clothes for little ones, wipes, snacks, books, blanket, emergency supplies for winter travel. Use hanging toiletries bag on the back of seats to store entertainment and snacks for long trips or even around town. Keep sturdy boxes in trunk for transporting dinners (soup?) and for grocery sacks. Keep tools at close range in a crate or basket with “tools” you’d like.
purse: Clear out occasionally at stop light or while waiting for an appt. Corral like items in pouches.
church bag: Take a couple minutes Sunday night and clean out, write notes/assignments/upcoming events from church on calendar; re-stock.
diaper bag: Take some time Sunday night and re-stock diapers, wipes, new outfit for baby, snacks, toss trash, etc. ready for the week; keep a similar bag in vehicle so supplies are always ready. Adapt for older kids: snacks, change of outfit esp for preschoolers (i.e., in case they have an accident at a park), first aid kit, wipes no matter what age, water
mail: Open at trash (or recycling) and sort immediately: throw everything away you can! Separate the rest: recycling, bills, to be filed, letters/items requiring reply in a file/box, put future reference items immediately in your binder. Cancel unwanted magaznines/catalogs immediately; you can keep sorting while you’re on the phone. Keep bill items in one basket: calculator, return address labels, stamps, envelopes, pen. Put bills to be paid in this basket.
kitchen: counters cleared, dishwasher started, keep up with, have kids involved
living areas: Kids pick up own stuff (given time of day ie right before dinner or bed) or else… (your choice: donation bag, time-out, earn back)
by door/mudroom: Keep a bag for errands in mudroom/near door (returns, packages to mail, library books), just take to car. Post a list for each family member of items to remember on certain days (instruments, library books, p.e. shoes). Sticky note on door if someone needs to remember something special like class treats or science fair board.
junk box: This is for all the Legos and screwdrivers that you don’t want to immediately want to run back to their spots. Once a month clean it out and return all game pieces, tools, etc. Get rid of items you still don’t know what to do with. Keep one up/downstairs and in laundry room.
school stuff: Have them get in the habit (chart on door, must be done before snack or play) of putting away backpacks, coats, giving you anything to sign, wash hands.
C. Put your house to bed
* Don’t wake up to yesterday’s work, start fresh, easier to take a few minutes at night. Sparkly sink. Plan for tomorrow. Outfits ready, items for the next day by the door. Dinner for next night (defrost meat?)
D. Make family members work
* Take care of own stuff and common areas (rotate each day or week?).
* Let kids do anything/everything they are capable of (holding own bottle, doing own sheets, laundry, lunches, oil changes, tire rotations, cleaning their vehicle, scheduling own hair cuts).
* Rooms should be regularly cleaned (sheets), but give some flexibility (when it starts to affect the family then it needs to be addressed).
* Low hooks, shelves, rods; label boxes so even young children can replace items. Think school rooms.
IV. Baby steps: 5 minutes or less!
Little irritations build up, causing an underlying layer of stress when everywhere you look you notice another project. Conquer one a day to keep up and to give yourself a boost and sense of accomplishment. A tiny investment every day can add up.
* Wipe out the microwave after doing the dishes (cook sponge), wipe fingerprints off fridge and doors.
* Sharpen pencils while supervising homework. Cut and file your nails while watching kids in the tub.
* Wipe the bathroom during bath time or the shower while you’re in it.
* Let crockpot soak while you’re eating. Cut up onions or vegetables for the whole week at once.
* Vacuum out the van after grocery shopping. Use the soapy dish water to clean the sink.
* Try to do one tiny job a day: silverware trays, empty toaster crumbs, make-up drawer, wash brushes, purse, straighten mudroom, jewelry box, take donations/recycling/returns.
* Write all bday cards the last Sunday of the previous month (or whatever day you choose). Mail gifts/cards at beginning of month. Keep gifts on hand for bday parties, buy way in advance for upcoming birthdays. Keep a birthday gift box stocked for kid parties.
* Get in the habit of dealing with laundry as it comes out. Takes less than five minutes/load to fold and put away. Same with pots/pans.
* Clean light fixtures when doing bathroom mirror.
* Clean out your purse at stop light. Good time to clear phone messages too!
* Use dishwasher to clean vents, tops of ketchup etc bottles, toothbrushes, sponges
* Sweep and mop pantry as part of floor. Pull out oven and fridge every couple of times. Alternate. You will also be surprised how easy it is to clean behind the washer/dryer.
V. Room by room/hot spots
A. Bedroom: Your room should be a relaxing haven for you, not your stuff; not a storage room. Make it a place you want to be by keeping it clean and decorating it. Show that you and your marriage are your top priority.
under bed—storage for sheets/bedding, Legos, out of season kid clothes, gift wrapping station, to rotate toys
baskets or boxes by bed—reading material to keep it looking tidy; small one for chargers. (Consider a family charging station in parents’ room.)
habit (for all family members): make bed, put away clothes
bedding—splurge on new pillows; clean sheets each week; flip mattress, vac
shelving to inside closet doors—bedroom, kitchen, bathroom; can also use shoe bag behind doors (stuffed animals, cars, hair accessories)
B. Bathroom: Each person is responsible for his/her stuff. Leave it clean and ready for next “guest.” #1 problem is too many lotions/potions that need to be used up or discarded.
baskets/caddies—one for each family member with name tag (can be taken to/from bedroom if space is tight or designate a shelf); also use for towels, tp (by toilet or on floor of closet), hair stuff
behind-the-door (shoe) organizer for hair stuff or lotions/hair sprays
towels/washcloths—clothespin with name on hook; rolled in baskets for guests, hook for hand
over-the-toilet cabinet or high shelf near ceiling for storage if small space—tampons, tp, diapers
random containers—tic-tac container is perfect for bobby pins, Altoids for small ponies/elastics, ribbon for hair clips
C. Kitchen: Think function: where do you use items and how often?
baking area—measuring utensils, spices, hot pads, think about how you work
washing area—soaps, cloths, brushes (put in dishwasher every day or so), towels (splurge every now and then on new washcloths/towels, even if it’s a Bday or Christmas gift!); containerize (put Costco soap in smaller squeeze bottle, put dishwasher tablets in pretty canister, Dollar store for plastic baskets/containers for sponges, scrapers for under the sink, less by sink)
pantry—use for frequently-used items if space is limited, ok to use laundry room, basement or garage for once-a-year roasters, ice cream maker, canning supplies
Pantry Principle/Be Prepared: keep several containers of frequently used items ie canned milk, tomato products, butter and add to list when you’re down to one or two; calming because you have options, always able to make your regular foods even with company coming. Freezer too: ie always have Cool Whip or ice cream—last minute get-togethers aren’t stressful)
fridge—clear it off; papers need to go in office area/binder. Wipe out as a 5 minute job with soapy dish water the night before you go grocery shopping.
Make drawers within cupboards by using a plastic tub (or box) so you can pull out all the spices at once (put labels on lids), or all the plastic lids, for instance. Place toaster in a box to catch crumbs if you store it away (rest on glass cutting board if you leave it on the counter).
scriptures—have a basket or make a shelf on wall (use brackets and a floating shelf; use bookends)
D. Garage: Designate areas and containerize
* hang up anything you can (lumber, bikes, hoses, rakes, cords)
* bins or trash cans (balls, bats, assign one per person or per sport, shovels, rakes)
* boxes or other containers with labels (yard, automotive, sprinkler, plumbing, painting)
* sweep regularly (weekly kid job?), keep shop vac very accessible (kid job?), use rugs—first line of defense
* bungee cords to keep items standing up along wall
* take off shoes to eliminate most dirt; shoe cubbies in garage?
E. Laundry: Make it pretty and functional, easy for all to use.
* Assign each family member his/her own day (kids may want to swap jobs—one will do another’s laundry in exchange for bathroom, some will want to combine clothes).
* Schedule days for doing all towels and/or sheets.
* basket or other holder for lost socks (gather everyone and all the loner socks from drawers and this basket occasionally, after three years toss the ones you’ve never found; this is how you’ll find the match)
* Place a jar or basket for items (coins, hair things, anything that comes through that you don’t want to put away right away) near washer/dryer. Like other junk boxes, clean out every month or so. Tell kids so they can come get anything that they still want.)
* Evaluate the number of spot removers, soaps, etc.; make yourself use up what you have before opening something new. Put soaps, dryer sheets in pretty canisters or jars and tuck away huge boxes.
* assigned baskets for each family member (if they are too young to do it themselves)
* ironing—hang up items in closets if you know you aren’t going to get to it for awhile; fewer wrinkles, one less pile; have each family member do his own (young as 8 can manage)
* mending—again, teach each family member how; pile in basket by sewing machine if it will help remind you and it can be tucked away, or keep a list of what needs to be done and store clothes in closets for now
F. Cleaning Closet
* Either keep a stocked caddy under each bathroom sink/closet or have just one that travels.
* Hang up anything you can (leashes, fly swatters, spray bottles, aprons).
* Baskets can corral rags, brushes, cleaners.
* Contain plastic bags by using Kleenex box, paper towel tube, car trash bag, fabric holder; reusable, omit.
* Make a point within the month to use up the dregs in all these containers. Toss items you never use.
G. Toys—teach them that picking up is part of play and keep only good quality, open-ended toys with high play value
* no catch-all toy box (except dress up)
* baskets/boxes/containers and label (pictures for very young children) so even guests can clean up
* no miscellaneous junk toys that serve no purpose; don’t even bring them home (when giving gifts consider the mom, think of consumable gifts or experiences/magazine subscriptions)
* puzzles—number the back of the tray and each piece that goes with it; put pieces in zip-lock bag and all into large container with lid
* consider putting all toys in one room rather than kids’ rooms
* check-out system
* designate play areas like preschools (ie dress up with hooks and mirror, reading corner, craft area)
* baskets for gaming systems/electronics
* hammock for stuffed animals or try a string from the ceiling with clothespins to attach the animals; eliminate
H. Books/reading material
* Either designate a library spot (bean bags/shelf/blanket/closet with doors off) or give each person a basket/container for room.
* Decorate using books: gutter shelving, more likely to read what they can see, hang up covers you like.
* Spread throughout life—magazines/newspapers in baskets, nice books on living room tables, fun fact paperbacks and magazines and word puzzles in vehicles; power of suggestion!
* Keep a list of what you loan and what you borrow (in your binder, see VI).
I. Desk/office area: Make it user-friendly for all family members
* Use a BIG calendar for the entire family: record event/time and file the details (address, what to wear), obviously different colors for each member if you have that kind of life
* binder or trays/boxes/baskets/folders for each family member
* File every few days if you can, at least once or twice a month after paying bills—stay on top of it and it’s not a big deal; make categories very simple so anyone can locate what they need. Consider a file for each family member for more permanent items. Keep originals in safe at home or bank or freezer.
* Use a binder/box for warranties/instruction manuals—staple receipt to instruction manual and file by category (kitchen appliances, lawn equipment, sewing machine, baby items); if you have a very large filing cabinet or drawer system you can just designate an area to warranties/instructions.
J. Memorabilia: Be sensible. Not exclusively sentimental.
* Hang up art work temporarily on string/ribbon with clothespins in hallways, other common areas, or bedrooms. Or rotate pictures in frames. Take picture of and mail to family member or recycle.
* Delegate scrapbooking to members who are willing to do it (teen girls). Can do old-fashioned way (just slip pictures in page protectors, doesn’t have to be 3-D).
* Each family member can have a long tote under his bed for large projects/artwork, clean out at end of each school year; again, take a picture and dispose of or decide to save in larger tote for when they move out.
* Have a file box for each member with file folder for each year of school for pictures/special pictures. Really consider, though, if all this is worth keeping. Do any of us ever go back and look at our 5th grade handprints? Be judicious, keep some, but just because he colored a picture at church and it came home isn’t a good enough reason to keep it. Keep thin box under each kid’s bed, clean out end of summer.
* If you still print pictures or if you have some from years ago—sort into piles for each family member and put in shoebox or other smallish box. Then divide each smaller box into years or even broader categories like baby, childhood, teen, adult. Give grown-up children their boxes. Let a teen scan pictures and print books online for value project. Think before buying: do you need/want school or team pictures? Consider a group shot only.
* If you want to do some kind of journal but procrastinate or it seems too overwhelming, maybe start with a question a day at dinner and have someone record each family member’s responses. Print your emails, keep in a binder. Have a family grateful book, add one item each night at prayer. Take a random photo each day. Compile books for everyone at Christmas. Add details. A teen’s project.
K. Recipes/Meals
* Decide on a method: binder(s), box, blank book where you write in your favorites, a combination—just categorize; consider helping your yw start their own system as a value project, get together with other ladies
* Have a folder for recipes you haven’t tried but want to—once you’ve tried it, either toss it or keep and file and make a point to try a new recipe 2-4 times a month, for instance
* Assign each kid a night to be in charge of dinner (deciding with you what to have and to be your helper—or if he’s old enough, you be his helper/advisor). Plan the menu on Sunday night or before you go grocery shopping for the week (save time/money and try going every two weeks). Some suggest a theme for each night (Mexican, Italian, soup, sandwiches, seafood). Ideally, look through fridge, pantry, and esp freezer for items that need to be used up. Some suggest shopping sales too. Plan dinners that use similar ingredients within a reasonable amount of time to use up items ie rotisserie chicken, whipping cream, peppers, cilantro.
* Post menu conspicuously (a small Dollar store calendar works or print a blank calendar page for the fridge). Have a leftover night each week, maybe Thursday to clean out the fridge before the weekend, maybe Monday so you start the week off clear, or maybe even Sunday if you have late church. Traditional holiday meals and cultural lesson ie, Chinese on Chinese New Year red Valentine’s, corned beef on St. Patrick’s, Fiesta on Cinco de Mayo
* May want to create a master list of all your recipes/foods you make and your family likes (and which cookbook/pg) so you don’t get into a rut ie, soups, salads, pastas, breads, etc., just easier to plan a menu. Some even plan breakfast menus. If kids are on their own for making breakfast or lunch, have them create a similar list of all breakfast foods they can choose from (granola, cream of wheat, muffins, wraps, omelets) and lunch choices (yogurt, crackers and cheese, vegetables and dip, trail mix, nuts). Same for snack ideas. Sometimes just being able to visualize choices spurs creativity.
* Weekday cooking can be very simple, save the fancier stuff for weekends when there’s more time (?) or interest; you can have a frozen vegetable or salad nearly every night, nothing wrong with a bowl of kiwi, cuties, grapes or raw carrots, cucumbers, or snap peas on the table as part of dinner. Freezer meals? At least freeze half and have next week instead of in the same week.
* Don’t let cooking overwhelm you when you want to socialize. Appetizers and desserts. Sundaes bar Tacos or baked potato bar, (store-bought) soup and bread. Frozen lasagna. Chinese take-out. Store-bought pizza crusts and make your own pizzas. Potluck or at least have everyone bring something. Keep frozen cookie dough balls for last-minute plans or when kids need treat for school/church activity. Don’t stress about cleaning the house for company. Put anything you can in the dishwasher or oven in a pinch. Clean one bathroom (surface-ly—no need to do shower) and shut bedroom doors. Sweep. Dab sticky spots. Have kids vacuum and light candles. Good company is so much more important than tense, uptight people in a spotless house. Guests want to feel like part of the family.
* Make the same dinner every time you’re asked to bring one (new baby, sick sister). Have just a handful of easy, fool-proof meals and feed them over and over to the missionaries and your friends. Keep track if you want in your binder of what you fed who.
* Easy snack/lunch box ideas: frozen berries and creamer, popcorn in a brown paper bag, bagel or pita pizzas, pitas with garlic salt or cinnamon sugar, apples or carrots or celery with pb or Nutella, cheese and crackers, garlic bagels, cinnamon toast, bean burritos, tuna or chicken on crackers, cottage cheese and fruit, cottage cheese-ranch dip or humus with vegetables, trail mix (nuts, pretzels, dried fruit, cereal), granola and yogurt, smoothies (frozen too), energy bites, chili or soup, wrap, salad, cream cheese and bagel, fruit salad
L. Camping/72 hour kits
* Keep totes stocked with essentials: old dish towels, paper towels, wipes, hand sanitizer, cutting board, utensils, tin foil, dish soap, etc.
* Keep kits in mud room or closet near an exit. Might try garage or car but be careful about extremes in temperatures. Large overnight backpacks or regular-sized ones work (find at garage sales/second-hand). Switch out over Conference weekend, eat whatever food needs to be used up. Remember water.
VI. Binder
Can use one large one or several smaller ones. There are great, great systems out there, check them out online. Basically, just the one place to keep all on-going information we’re working on or need to reference regularly. All family members know where to look. Keep it simple and user-friendly so everyone can use on their own. Adapt yours as needed, some ideas:
1. Sections (labeled of course)
* front page—family members’ contact information, emergency numbers, and neighbor numbers
* additional contact information—ward lists, school numbers, vting/hting routes, extended family contact lists
* finances—budget outline
* Christmas/gifts—ideas for self and family members, list of what’s already been bought, address list, bdays
* packing lists—master copy, can make changes and print for each family member for each trip/camping. If you travel frequently, just keep travel items stocked and packed. Once each member has packed his case, zip and put by door with sticky note of anything still needed. Each in charge of own to-do bag. Print idea list.
* items loaned— running list of books and other items either borrowed or loaned
* movies and books to check out/see
* household/vehicle maintenance—to keep track of when you got the septic pumped, changed the furnace filter, got the tires rotated
* menus—personal family menus from past months as well as from restaurants
* to do list—repairs that need to be made, household projects to address; could include mending list here
* calendars—school, community events, church, practice schedules (or these can be filed under the individual)
* goals—these would probably be better posted in a prominent place, but this is another option
* travel—ideas for trips, itineraries, packing lists
2. Pocket dividers
Each family member has his/her own pocket for items pertaining only to that person ie birthday party invitation, EFY registration information, school supply lists, upcoming field trip details, school schedule, lock combination, letters from school that need to be kept, upcoming testing information. Date/time is on family calendar but details are held here out of the way.
* reference—ice skating rink schedule, menus (another option instead of its own section), possibly lists of what the kids can do when they’re bored, good Sunday activities, ways to earn money around the house
* pending—wedding announcements, travel itineraries and ticket confirmations, concert tickets, upcoming doctor appointment paperwork
* coupons—gift cards, restaurant discounts
VII. Family schedule
On the fridge or wall or someplace very visible (maybe by family calendar) lay out a loose family schedule that everyone agrees on. Include the backbones like meal times, scriptures, waking up times, bedtimes, the basic order and layout of a typical day. Everyone does better with some basic parameters in the day. You may find it helpful to include a school-like schedule even if you just have preschoolers at home, like snacks, stories, outside play, play days, nap times. You maybe actually even need a schedule more than you think if you’re an empty-nester or have entire days to yourself. Make yourself accountable and organized: day/time for temple, exercise, paperwork, cleaning, yard work, errands, home-business, family history, even reading and nap! Take a lunch break. Read, do something enjoyable.
Cleaning schedule: a little everyday (fly lady) or one cleaning day (looks like the cleaning lady has come).
Chores: assign on monthly basis, enough time to really learn the job; have them done by 6 p.m. Friday night or before 10 a.m. Saturday morning.
Block out some time Monday morning to recover from weekend (straighten, laundry, mop?) and again on Friday to get ready for the weekend (change sheets, your bathroom, your room, mop, laundry)
Make calendaring part of FHE or Sunday evening prayers. Just take a few minutes to compare schedules, let everyone know what everyone else is doing, coordinate rides/vehicles, make sure everyone has needed supplies. Make any necessary arrangements/phone calls/emails/texts.
VIII. Involve your kids or others in simple ways
* paying jobs (based on $10/hour, so calculate by what fraction of an hour the job took)
* more important to know how to work than to kick a ball (family responsibilities trump school/work/extra-curiculars; these are temporary—families are forever!) Work is guaranteed to pay bigger dividends than the chance at a baseball scholarship.
* Dovetail activities—combine relationships and work/errands: get yogurt on a date with one kid while waiting for a youth activity for another; ask a friend to help you make dinner for someone instead of doing all of it yourself; take a kid to clean a house with you; take a friend to do family history
IX. Just do something
Your home is your place of refuge. Reduce the distractions in order to focus on the most important work. Ask Heavenly Father to help you manage your household better and to give you motivation and direction. He will magnify your efforts and will help you discern what you can do without. Follow His counsel to simplify and put the most important things foremost in your life.
Organizational sites you might enjoy: abowlfulloflemons.com, realsimple,com, mrspollyrogers.com, thecreativityexchange.com
Mothers Who Know by Julie Beck, October 2007 General Conference
Of Things that Matter Most by President Uchdorf, October 2010 General Conference
